Erection problems and Impotence - who is it likely to affect?
Who suffers from erection failure, erectile dysfunction and impotence?

Well, the answer is as you'd expect - almost all men have some degree of impotence or erectile dysfunction at some point in their lives. We tend to think that the erect penis is a reliable and strong part of us.....until the first time it goes wrong, that is. But the reality is that getting an erection is one of the weakest links in our maleness and it is susceptible to all kinds of things: a woman saying the wrong things at the wrong moment, our belief that we should be able to have sex at the drop of a hat (even when we don't want to!), our belief that the man gives during sex and the woman receives (even when we want something different).....and so on, and on, and on.

But, having said that, some men are more susceptible to erectile dysfunction problems than others. Are you a worrier? Do small things trouble you? Do you brood on relationships, mull over what people have said and done to you? Or are you a happy-go-lucky kind of a guy, who doesn't take anything too seriously and makes the best of everything?

Well, it won't surprise you to learn that the first group of men are the ones who are more likely to experience erectile failure. And if it's the loss of your erection you're worried about, you may find that both your anxiety about losing your erection and your erectile dysfunction itself rapidly get worse.

And what kinds of standards do you set yourself during sex? Do you like to do everything perfectly, to be in control, to lead from the front, as it were, while you partner remains more passive? Do you feel you bear the burden of giving her an orgasm, or making sure she gets her pleasure before you do?

This kind of perfectionism sets you up for failure. After all, one time when your penis lets you down is a major failure: you've let her down, you've let yourself down, and who knows if it will happen again? How can you (or your penis) ever be relied on again? You feel so bad about this that it can became a major issue in your relationship.

Then again, if you lack sexual experience, you may not have the confidence to know that actually, one episode of impotence isn't a disaster. But if you don't know this, and you come to sex with your anxiety uppermost in your mind......well, you can see what may well happen. Expectations are often fulfilled for us, especially when it concerns the erectile capacity of our penises.

But this can happen to us all, regardless of personality type, anxiety level or anything else. If you repeatedly experience the loss of your erection, and you don't know why it's happening to you, it doesn't really matter if you're twenty one years old or fifty one, if you've had sex with one woman or hundreds of women: in all cases of loss of erection you can rapidly develop a full-blown case of self-doubt and anxiety. That's performance anxiety, as in "Will I ever be able to do it again?"

And once your penis failed to get erect more than once you'll feel less of a man. So let's take a break from the sermonizing and look at some of the things that men do when they have erectile dysfunction.

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